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Lessons from TEDx – how can you enjoy your speaking more?

emotions in audience

Sometimes after getting invited to do something we get that sudden excitement followed by the realisation – “Oh no I have to actually do this now!”  That was certainly the case after I got invited to speak at TEDxStormont in 2014.  I needed practice, lots of it!

At first practising went ok, I gained a tiny bit of confidence quite quickly but unfortunately soon after that I hit a brick wall. I felt there would be no way I could be ready to stand up and speak in the Great Hall at Stormont, I was hating the practice.

One day about a month out I decided to throw in the towel and I penned an email to the organiser apologising but I wouldn’t be able to do the talk after all.   I didn’t send the email in the end; perhaps many people wish I did!    I decided to give it a couple more attempts and I was invited to speak at an event in Dublin that would serve as a good final test to see if I could do this thing.  When I came off the stage I felt completely different to every other time I had spoken. It suddenly dawned on me that for the first time I had actually enjoyed it.

Then the organiser came over to me and thanked me for what he thought was a very good talk.  He said, “I really felt you shift emotions in the room and that’s what a successful talk does: shifts people’s emotions.”  He was a very well respected speaker so to hear that gave me confidence and I decided to plug away and get this TEDx done as best I could for the person I had written it for.

As I drove home that day I reflected on how I came to the point where I finally felt more confident about my speaking. I realised there were four key things I’d learnt:

  1. Practice is always beneficial even when it feels horrible.
  2. Eventually practice brings a breakthrough and then real enjoyment.
  3. Enjoyment is felt by the audience and that’s what shifts emotions.
  4. A successful speech shifts people’s emotions.

So I’ll leave you with a question to think about “How can you enjoy your speaking more?”  Get in touch on Facebook if you have any comments!


Richard Wasson

Richard Wasson has sailed the world on exploration superyachts. He has many stories to tell from his years as captain and chief officer to the very rich and the very famous! Now officially retired from sea, his quest to help people be happier in their life and careers is ongoing. Watch Richard’s TEDx talk here.

“This post is the second in a series of three posts, where I share just some of the things I learnt from my TEDx experience. You can read the others here and here.”